by Katherine Jewett, LMFT Because the usual “drink water and take a nap” isn’t cutting it anymore. Let’s be honest: the phrase self-care has gotten a little… overexposed. Somewhere between the bubble baths and the “treat yourself” mantras, we lost the plot. You don’t need another list of basic hygiene disguised as healing. What your soul […]
Continue readingDear Inner Critic, You’re Canceled: A Guide to Self-Love
By Katherine Jewett, LMFT Introduction Ever notice that voice in your head that sounds suspiciously like Regina George from Mean Girls or maybe Professor Snape from Harry Potter? Meet your inner critic—the uninvited guest at your mental party who constantly whispers things like, “You’re going to embarrass yourself,” or “You’ll never be good enough.” This critical […]
Continue readingParenting Without Losing Your Mind (Or Your Cool): How Your Nervous System Shapes Your Parenting—and How to Outsmart It
by Katherine Jewett, LMFT Ever catch yourself in a power struggle with a pint-sized human and think, “Who is this control freak, and why does she look suspiciously like me?” If so, congratulations—you’re officially human! And believe it or not, the culprit behind your mini meltdowns over mismatched socks and uneaten broccoli isn’t actually you. […]
Continue readingThe Perfectionism Trap: How the Pressure to Be Perfect Fuels Anxiety and Depression
by Katherine Jewett, LMFT Ever spent 20 minutes choosing a font for an email or rearranging the cups in your cabinet until they’re just right? 🙋 You’re not alone. Many of us proudly call ourselves “perfectionists,” often with a nervous laugh. We might even trot it out as a “weakness” in job interviews (classic […]
Continue readingGaslighting 101: How to Reclaim Your Voice When Doubt Creeps In
by Katherine Jewett, LMFT Gaslighting is a subtle yet deeply damaging form of emotional manipulation that can make you question your own thoughts, feelings, and even reality. If you’ve ever found yourself second-guessing your memories, wondering if you’re “too sensitive,” or feeling like you’re always the one to blame, you may be experiencing gaslighting. In […]
Continue readingLove Under Pressure: How Couples Can Stand Strong Against Depression
Relationships are the bedrock of our lives, offering love, support, and connection. But what happens when one partner is struggling with depression? It can feel like a whirlwind of emotions—loneliness, fear, frustration, and helplessness. If you or your partner are going through something similar, know that you’re not alone. Many couples face this challenge, and […]
Continue readingHow to Stop the Blame Cycle in Relationships
Breaking Free from the Blame Game & Building Real Connection We’ve all been there—caught in an argument where emotions escalate, and suddenly, the conversation shifts from solving the problem to pointing fingers. “You never listen!” “You always forget!” “This is your fault!” When the focus turns to assigning blame, couples often find themselves stuck in […]
Continue readingThe Hidden Cost of Avoiding Conflict in Marriage
Conflict is an inevitable part of any marriage. Two people, each with their own needs, values, and perspectives, are bound to disagree at times. While it may seem easier to avoid conflict and “keep the peace,” doing so can come with hidden costs that gradually erode the foundation of a relationship. Avoiding conflict isn’t the […]
Continue readingNavigating Emotional Disconnect in Relationships
Relationships are the cornerstone of our emotional well-being, yet they can also be a source of frustration and pain when we feel disconnected from our partners. Emotional disconnect often sneaks up on couples, manifesting as a pattern of one partner over-functioning while the other withdraws. This dynamic can leave both individuals feeling lonely, unsupported, […]
Continue readingThe Power of Staying Grounded: How to Break the Cycle of Fight or Flight Responses in a Relationship
In our fast-paced world, where stressors seem to come from every direction, it’s no wonder many of us find ourselves slipping into fight-flight mode, especially in our closest relationships. These moments of heightened tension can often lead to misunderstandings, conflicts, and emotional disconnection. But what if there was a way to break this cycle? What […]
Continue readingRediscovering Creativity: How Small Acts of Expression Can Reignite Your Passion for Life
Life can sometimes feel like a never-ending cycle of routine, responsibilities, and emotional challenges. When we become so consumed by our roles—be it as a parent, partner, or professional—we may lose touch with the parts of ourselves that once brought us joy and fulfillment. This can lead to feelings of exhaustion, dissatisfaction, and a sense […]
Continue readingStuck in the Cycle of Marital Conflict? Here’s How to Break Free and Find Peace
Marriage is one of life’s most fulfilling and challenging commitments. When things are going well, it can feel like the ultimate partnership, a safe haven where both partners grow and thrive. But when conflicts arise, especially those that seem to repeat themselves over and over, marriage can start to feel like a never-ending cycle of […]
Continue readingThe Push-Pull Dynamic: How Childhood Trauma Affects Adult Relationships
Have you ever found yourself caught in a whirlwind of emotions, constantly moving closer to—and then pulling away from—your partner? If this pattern feels all too familiar, you might be experiencing what’s known as the push-pull dynamic, a complex dance many adults unknowingly engage in. Rooted in unresolved childhood trauma, this dynamic can be […]
Continue readingThe Impact of Unmet Expectations on Marriage: Strategies for Building Trust and Reliability
Marriage is built on shared dreams, responsibilities, and mutual trust. However, when expectations go unmet, it can lead to frustration, disappointment, and a gradual erosion of that trust. Often, these unmet expectations aren’t about grand gestures or life-altering decisions but the small, everyday actions that, when consistently overlooked, can create significant rifts in the relationship. […]
Continue readingThe Healing Power of Touch: Strengthening Relationships and Boosting Mental Health
In a world that often moves too fast, where digital pings outnumber real moments of presence, the simple act of touch can feel like a lost language. But your body still remembers. The nervous system doesn’t forget what it’s like to be held, to be comforted, to feel safe in another person’s presence. Non-sexual touch—like […]
Continue readingThe Impact of Unmet Expectations on Marriage: Strategies for Building Trust and Reliability
Marriage is built on shared dreams, responsibilities, and mutual trust. However, when expectations go unmet, it can lead to frustration, disappointment, and a gradual erosion of that trust. Often, these unmet expectations aren’t about grand gestures or life-altering decisions but the small, everyday actions that, when consistently overlooked, can create significant rifts in the relationship. […]
Continue readingBreaking the Cycle: How Childhood Trauma Shapes Adult Relationships—and How to Heal
Childhood Isn’t Always a Soft Landing Childhood is often imagined as a season of softness—sticky fingers, scraped knees, and wide-eyed wonder. But what happens when the story is different? When your nervous system learned to brace instead of trust? When connection was paired with confusion or pain? If you’re nodding quietly, this post is for […]
Continue readingBuilding Trust and Safety: The Science of Co-Regulation
The Importance of Co-Regulation in Personal and Professional Relationships In our fast-paced society, we often hear about the importance of self-regulation — the ability to manage our own emotions and behaviors. While self-regulation remains crucial, there’s another concept that’s equally vital yet often overlooked: co-regulation. Co-regulation is how we use our interactions with others […]
Continue readingGaslighting: Empowering Antidotes Against Emotional Sabotage in Relationship
This insidious manipulation technique can be devastating, but understanding it is the first step toward empowering yourself and others to counteract its harmful effects. What is the Definition of Gaslighting? Gaslighting is a toxic manipulation strategy aimed at making a person doubt their perception, memory, or even sanity. The term ‘gaslighting’ was coined […]
Continue readingNarcissism vs. Self-Confidence
Many people throw around the term “narcissist” very casually, using it to describe an individual with high self-esteem rather than one who actually has narcissistic personality disorder. Below, we explain what narcissism is and how it differs from self-confidence. What Is Narcissism? Narcissistic personality disorder is a mental health condition characterized by an excessive need […]
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