You’re not asking for too much. You’re asking for what was promised.
So many couples walk into my therapy office carrying the quiet weight of disappointment. Not over infidelity. Not over betrayal. But over dishes left undone, emotional checkouts, forgotten birthdays, and the lingering sense of “Am I the only … Read the rest
Continue readingAfter nearly a decade of sitting with couples, there’s a phrase I’ve heard more times than I can count:
“We love each other, but the spark is gone.”
That was exactly what Jen and Mark (names changed) said as they sat across from me—not angry, not broken, just… quietly aching. … Read the rest
Continue reading“Am I being too much right now—or not enough?”
“Why do I keep second-guessing everything?”
“Everyone else seems so relaxed… is it just me?”
If these thoughts feel familiar, you’re in good company.
In fact, you’re not the problem. You’re a deeply attuned, emotionally invested mother navigating one of the … Read the rest
Continue readingThe dynamics we carry into romantic relationships often feel familiar—sometimes frustratingly so. Maybe you’ve found yourself pulling away just when things get close. Or perhaps you feel like you’re always reaching, but never fully met.
These patterns aren’t random. They’re … Read the rest
Continue reading68% of long-term couples report feeling emotionally disconnected.
But only 12% actually take steps to repair it.
If you’re reading this, maybe you know the feeling.
You love your partner. You live together. But somehow, you’ve drifted.
You talk logistics—groceries, car repairs, schedules—but not about you. Not about them… Read the rest
Bedtime Routine That Actually Works (For Your Child and You)
It’s 7:30 PM. Your child is bouncing off the walls—or melting down in protest. You’re trying to keep it together, but inside you’re counting the minutes until they’re asleep and you can finally exhale.
You’re not alone. According to a … Read the rest
Continue readingThe Ache of Losing Yourself
There’s a specific ache that comes when you realize you’ve been disappearing inside a relationship.
Maybe it’s subtle—like biting your tongue when you want to speak.
Or maybe it’s louder—like forgetting who you were before them.
If you’re here, reading this, chances are a … Read the rest
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Embracing Radical Listening for Emotional Repair in Relationships
A Therapist’s Guide to Deep Listening and Lasting Connection
If you’ve ever tried to say, “I’m sorry, but…” — you already know how that sentence ends.
It doesn’t land.… Read the rest
Continue readingDivorce doesn’t end your story as parents. It just rewrites the shape of the family. When children are involved, co-parenting after divorce becomes a long, sacred, and sometimes heartbreakingly hard road. And if you’re walking that road with hurt still in your chest and worry in your gut, you’re not … Read the rest
Continue readingHave you ever felt a quiet ache when your partner reaches for you—and all you want is space?
Or maybe you’re the one reaching out. Are you wondering why your partner doesn’t meet you there anymore?
If you’re sitting with the tension of mismatched desire, let’s pause here together.
This … Read the rest
Continue readingWe talk a lot about love, passion, communication. But not nearly enough about the quiet force that holds it all together: reliability.
In any intimate relationship, reliability isn’t just a bonus. It’s the bedrock. It builds emotional safety, strengthens trust in couples, and creates the kind of … Read the rest
Continue readingIt usually doesn’t happen all at once.
You stop reaching for each other in the morning. You skip the kiss goodbye. You start talking more about schedules and tasks than anything meaningful. You sit side by side on the couch, but you haven’t actually touched in days.
Somewhere in the … Read the rest
Continue readingWhat happens when your relationship starts to feel like a crowd of three—you, your partner, and their depression?
You’re not imagining it. When your partner has depression, it can start to feel like the relationship is no longer just between two people. The joy that once floated effortlessly between you … Read the rest
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Family dynamics can be incredibly complex, shaped by years of shared experiences, emotions, and unspoken rules. As parents, the instinct to protect our children from pain and step in to fix problems is natural. However, sometimes the most loving thing we can do is set boundaries and let go, … Read the rest
Continue readingsaLet’s be real: relationships aren’t easy.
Even when the love is strong, navigating two nervous systems, two life histories, and two sets of needs? It’s a full-time dance — and sometimes a collision. That’s why I believe every couple (and every individual in a couple) needs to slow down from … Read the rest
You’re not wrong for feeling like you and your partner just… miss each other in conversation. You talk—but don’t feel heard. You listen—but somehow still feel miles apart. Over time, what started as small misfires can solidify into stuck patterns: avoidance, defensiveness, reactivity, or silent distance.
Communication in relationships … Read the rest
Continue readingInfidelity isn’t just a break in the relationship—it’s a break in reality.
If you’ve been betrayed by someone you loved and trusted most, you know this already. It doesn’t just hurt—it disorients. The floor drops out from under you, and suddenly, nothing feels safe. The rules you believed in, … Read the rest
If you’ve ever watched a child crumble after getting a 94%, refuse to raise their hand unless they’re 100% sure of the answer, or panic when their drawing doesn’t match what they imagined—it’s not just high standards. You’re witnessing the intersection of perfectionism and anxiety in kids.
What looks like … Read the rest
Continue readingMarriage can be a beautiful place of growth—but when you’re caught in the same fight over and over, it can feel more like emotional Groundhog Day.
If you’ve ever thought, “Didn’t we already have this fight… yesterday?”—you’re not alone. So many couples find themselves trapped in a looping conflict, … Read the rest
Understanding conflict-avoidant dishonesty, nervous system survival, and the slow path back to truth
“I didn’t tell you because I didn’t want to upset you.”
“It wasn’t a big deal—I didn’t think I needed to say anything.”
“I just didn’t want to fight.”
These are some of the most common forms … Read the rest
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