You’re not broken—you’re just running an old script.
One written to protect you when the world didn’t feel safe. One that made sense then, but keeps you stuck now.
And you’re not alone.
Whether it’s “I always mess things up” or “If I speak up, I’ll lose love,” many of … Read the rest
Continue readingWe talk a lot about love, passion, communication. But not nearly enough about the quiet force that holds it all together: reliability.
In any intimate relationship, reliability isn’t just a bonus. It’s the bedrock. It builds emotional safety, strengthens trust in couples, and creates the kind of … Read the rest
Continue readingHave you ever caught yourself reacting to something small—tensing in traffic, shutting down mid-argument, or unraveling when plans change—and wondered, “Why is this so hard for me?”
For many adults, chronic anxiety, emotional flooding, or relational tension aren’t just quirks or overreactions. They’re nervous system … Read the rest
Continue readingHave you ever felt numb, anxious, or disconnected during moments that should bring joy? Perhaps you’ve thought, “Why can’t I just enjoy this?” If so, you’re not alone—and these feelings don’t mean something is wrong with you.
Sometimes, difficult experiences from our past—even if we don’t label them as “trauma”—can … Read the rest
Continue readingSurvivor’s guilt is a deeply human, often misunderstood response to living through something that others did not. Whether you walked away from an accident, outlived a loved one, or survived a tragedy that claimed others, the weight of that survival can show up in unexpected ways. It’s not just sadness—it’s … Read the rest
Continue readingBy Katherine Jewett, LMFT
Ever notice that voice in your head that sounds suspiciously like Regina George from Mean Girls or maybe Professor Snape from Harry Potter? Meet your inner critic—the uninvited guest at your mental party who constantly whispers things like, “You’re going to embarrass yourself,” or … Read the rest
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by Katherine Jewett, LMFT
Ever spent 20 minutes choosing a font for an email or rearranging the cups in your cabinet until they’re just right? 🙋 You’re not alone. Many of us proudly call ourselves “perfectionists,” often with a nervous laugh. We might even trot it out as … Read the rest
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In our fast-paced society, we often hear about the importance of self-regulation — the ability to manage our own emotions and behaviors. While self-regulation remains crucial, there’s another concept that’s equally vital yet often overlooked: co-regulation. Co-regulation is how we … Read the rest
Continue readingWhen the pandemic hit, many people began to work with their therapists online. But there were many skeptics who did not believe the benefits of Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing therapy, also known as EMDR therapy, which is traditionally a hands-on therapy, could translate to online platforms. But as the … Read the rest
Continue readingThe holidays are often a complex time for many people. On the one hand, there is a sense of joy in the air, while on the other hand, sorrow and grief because of either a loss or dysfunctional family dynamic.
The following are some ways you can deal with family … Read the rest
Continue readingWhile most people will experience challenges and hardship in their life, some people experience trauma. We’re beginning to understand trauma better now and have recognized that trauma is actually a physiological process that impacts our psychological and emotional wellbeing. When trauma is suppressed, it often leads to mental health issues … Read the rest
Continue readingYou know you got your hairline from your Dad’s side of the family and your eye color from your mom. You know diabetes runs in your family, as does heart disease and Parkinson’s.
But do you know that many families also pass down trauma to their loved ones? It’s not … Read the rest
Continue readingAccording to CDC data, 1 in 4 children experiences some form of trauma or abuse in their childhood. More sobering statistics indicate that 1 in 5 women and 1 in 71 men have experienced rape at some point in their lives. These numbers suggest that many people, male and female, … Read the rest
Continue readingAs shocking instances of mass shootings continue to occur all over the United States, we often hear people talk about Posttraumatic Stress Disorder, or PTSD. Frequently associated with post-war veterans and victims of mass violence, PTSD is a psychiatric disorder that can develop in people who’ve experienced or witnessed a … Read the rest
Continue readingWhen tragedies like mass shootings occur, most of us struggle to make sense of it. How could something so terrible happen? What would cause another human being to do such a thing? And how can we move on with the knowledge that this latest mass shooting most likely won’t be … Read the rest
Continue readingPost-Traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is a psychiatric disorder that typically occurs after individuals have experienced or witnessed a traumatic event such as a serious accident, natural disaster, a terrorist act, war/combat, rape or other violent personal assault.
In the past, PTSD went by different names. During and right after the … Read the rest
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No one is ever prepared for a tragedy. In fact, most of us go through our lives believing that tragedies happen to other people.
When people do experience a distressing or life-threatening event, such as a car accident, natural disaster, or terrorist attack, they often develop extreme anxiety or PTSD. … Read the rest
Continue readingEye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing, or EMDR, is a therapeutic protocol used in the treatment of mental and emotional trauma. It has been widely praised in the United States and is currently used by agencies such as the American Psychiatric Association, the International Society for Traumatic Stress Studies, and the … Read the rest
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